single again :O(

[gurly1515]

hey guys my names Alecia and i guess its time for me to join in with you lol my boyfriend and i broke up yestarday im upest about this but yet im also taking this as a way to do something for myself for once i belive i need to just focus on me and what i have to get done in life and losing weight is definetly my top priority!! im kinda bummed out and caught myself reaching for my comfort foos today although i stopped myself just in time! i wont let him steer me away from my goals i wont let myself steer me away from my goals!! thanks everyone for listening i hope i can make new friends im always willing to talk hehe

[babygirl93]

Hello Alecia and welcome aboard! :buddysmoo

Im sorry to hear about your break up but sure am happy to hear the strength in your "voice"! You are strong and can get past this! Please come and post often, when you're down and need to talk or any ole' time! One of us is always around! Tell us a bit more about you. We have an "introduction" post for us singles...hope you find it to get to know us personally

Have a great weekend and :water1:
Hugs

[catcher34]

Alecia (& everyone!)-

I just checked out this thread for the first time today. My fiance broke up with me last night. Next month we would have been together 7 years and we got engaged in April. I haven't told anyone yet & I'm at work today just trying to act normal-if I start talking about it I'll break down! I noticed your break-up was 5 months ago-how are you doing now? Does it get easier? This is the only major relationship I've ever had & I can't even imagine myself being with anyone else. There have been other bf's before him, but none of them were real love & none of them were people I could see spending the rest of my life with and having a family with. As far as WW-I'm actually not very hungry yet but I have no desire to cook food or count points. I DON'T want to turn to food, but what I hate is that now I'm getting the attitude that I have to look good not for me but because I don't feel like anyone else will ever be attracted to me. Pathetic, I know, but I'm kind of emotional right now!:sobbing:
Thanks for giving me a shoulder to cry on.
-Jennifer

[becks]

Hey all,

After 17 years of marriage to my high school sweetheart, my divorce was final last month. I tried hard for the past year to keep the divorce from happening, but I lost the fight. So I rented out my spare bedroom to a girl my age who also wants to lose weight and we joined WW together three weeks ago.

This time of year was always my favorite, putting up the tree, baking cookies, etc. It is going to be a tough season and I'm going to try very hard not to fall into my old pattern of "this one day eating what I want won't hurt" or "I'll start eating better tomorrow".

I need to do this for me this time. Starting over just a few years before turning 40 isn't easy, but I'm going to do it.

[catcher34]

Hey Becks,

I'm so sorry about your divorce, but good for you for still taking care of yourself. I'm 34, never been married, no kids, and I was fighting for my fiance too but I lost. (After 7 years!!) Now I feel as though I'm never going to have kids and he took that away from me. But I have to keep reminding myself that one reason I joined WW was so I could be healthy when we started a family. I guess now I should keep the same attitude because women are having kids now in their late 30's & early 40's & if I get healthy & end up finding another "Mr. Right" maybe it could still happen.

I know what you mean about this time of year too. I'm dreading the holidays. I know you had a lot more invested in your relationship than I did in mine, but it all suck the same, hey?

Thank you though for being so inspirational-keep it up!:water1:

[becks]

Thanks, Jennifer. Hey, we can now honestly say that we're doing this for ourselves, right? And I notice that you have dropped below the 200 mark, what a great accomplishment! I'm planning on dragging out my Christmas lights this weekend and having a wonderful single holiday. I keep thinking of the Whos in How the Grinch Stole Christmas. Nothing can ruin the holidays if I don't let it. I had a 7.8 lb loss this week and I have wonderful friends. If I don't have my husband or my dreams of a family in front of me right now, I still have a lot. And you're three years younger than I am, so you're in great shape to still have those kids.

[catcher34]

Wow Becks, you're doing awesome! I have to admit I've slipped up-not going too overboard but I haven't been counting points. I know, I need to get back on the wagon.

That's a good idea, to get into the spirit of the holidays. I haven't told anyone yet-not my family or friends, just you all here and my next-door neighbors. (We live in a 4-family so it's pretty easy to tell when someone not staying overnight.) He hasn't moved out yet-just been staying at his parents until we get stuff straightened out. Neither one of us want to deal with all the questions, etc. until after this weekend. We've spent Thanksgiving apart before so that won't raise any flags.

I hope both you & "gulry1515" do ok this weekend-we can do it!:strong:

[Robert_C]

Wow, Im not alone. Tonight my girlfriend dumped me. Funny thing is I feel that since I am fat, it will be hard to meet someone, but I was fatter (+25) when I met her in the first place. Crazy. I guess untill I feel skinny I will allways be self conscience.