Hot Again

[CDL]

So, once upon a time I was a hottie. Then I got depressed and apathetic. I gained wait, overate, stopped working out, and settled for being an attractive overwieght girl .When I was a hottie I only like cute boys and never one for long. there were many boys to whom I would not give the time of day. Now, I was probaly 24 the last time I was ususally the cutest girl in the room. Now I'm 33, I'd like to think I'm more mature not such a snotty b**** anymore. Except those old "in your dreams buddy" thoughts are popping into my head again. My neighbor boy who I used to refer to as hot neighbor boy is home from college with a fresmen fifteen. now, I see him checking me out and I'm thinking hot neighbor boy got fat. This is not a joke post. I just wonder if anyone else feels anyway similar. Like, I feel guilty, like having been so overweight I should now be able to see deeper. I don't know. Just, if this makes sense at all to anyone else, I'd be interested in your thoughts.
When I was heaviest I still wasn't inteterested in "unattractive" men, but at least I was flattered by the interest. Now I'm a little insulted. I know it's not nice, mean, shallow, and egotistical. I just want to know if I'm alone.
:embarrass

[babyphat]

The last time I was flirted with (that I knew of) was about 6 months ago & by an older gentleman. If I had been single, I don't know what I woulda done. His body was "fit", looks were just OK... but ... he was old. I was flattered.

I dunno, I guess being married I don't put myself out there to be flirted with, like I did in my single & skinny days.

What I do that makes me a little guilty is seeing other women who are uglier and/or "bigger" than me who have "hot" husbands. Not saying mine is ugly, he is not by any means "hot". He's a self described computer geek who doesn't primp. He could be about 50% nicer looking if he only primped. I guess my point is, I get jealous & wonder, how'd she get THAT guy with how she looks!!!:o

[hle82]

I work in a department that is 98% male... and for the entire year that I had been working there (during my HW), I never got the desirable female attention. Instead, I was the chubby/fat girl that brought in cookies and was everyone's chum.

But since I've been shedding the lbs, I've been getting a lot more attention. Maybe it's also my mental attitude...I feel better, I make myself more presentable...

I did date a guy for awhile in college when I was near HW and he didn't seem to mind.. heh.. poor guy. I was so bleh.

[GingerIsMyPuppy]

I am 51 and when I'm in good shape, I get come-on's from men my son's age (30) and younger...all the way down to age 18. When I show pictures of my grandchildren, people don't believe me. I'm not bragging, it's just a fact. All that and $1.95 will get me a cup of coffee at 7-11!

Don't feel bad; I look at people, both men and women, and get one of two reactions: I get jealous or I get critical. I have been known to be a B***** and express those feelings out loud. I try not to do that anymore, just think them if I have to. Along with losing weight, I'm working towards being a nice person to everyone and loving myself the way I am.

It's about time! I'm a slow lear ner.

Beverly

[candyb_21]

None, yup thats my final answer. I swear i'll be by myself for the rest of my life, LOL

Candy:kiss:

[CDL]

Okay, so I teach preschool and in June at graduation one of the children's grandmother's decided she wanted me to meet her single son. So, I was away all summer, but when I got back a couple weeks ago the child's mother said "Miss Kelli, my brother is waiting to meet you." Okay, so I haven't dated in years. My whole social life has dwindled(friends move away,get married, or I am just not good at keeping up with them like I should.) So I decided from now on when it comes to socializing,friendship,& rommance I'm doing the complete opposite of what I'd normally do. 'cause clearly my way is not working out. So, I leave my number with the sister the next day(normally would have waited.) he calls and leaves a message(I actually call back). We had a nice conversation and he invites me to a BBQ at his Mom's (would have normally made up some other imginary plans) and says he's not sure he'll make it ,but please go anyway. I actually did(interesting in itself since this was the first day of a week I decided to try core.) Anyway, I'm set to go back to the Mom's house today and actually meet the man. Oh yeah also he's 37 and I've never dated anyone over 25 (I'm 33).

I'm not thinking this is any great potential for my life's great love, but I'm so proud of myself for moving out of my comfort zone and taking some chances. I'll let you know how it goes.

[travelingop]

Well, I bit the bullet and put myself up on Match.com again... Feeling more confident and being so close to goal (.8), I guess I felt it was worth a shot again. Well, feeling even more confident I put a full body picture up there.. because soon enough, if we actually meet then he will see me in the flesh.

So, anways.. put the ad up and I am amazed! I have had all rejections! Here I am educated(Graduate degree), good job, athletic, cultured, not a lot of baggage, honest etc.. yadda yadda yadda.. and not one positive response... which hasn't happened in the past. So, I am convinced it is the full body pose. So, just for fun... I took that pic down.. now let's see how shallow they are?

My friends swear the internet is the devil.. but I guess in my rose colored world someone decent would answer my ad. I have met some ok guys in the past from that site, but nothing of substance. I believe part of the problem is I live in Southern California, where I just don't fit the image of what is considered beautiful... It obviously has tore up my self esteem, but at this point I just have to laugh.. please... not one good response? :(

Hopefully all of you are having better luck than me!.. Kelli.. keep us updated!
Elizabeth

[CDL]

Elizabeth I'm not sure what you mean by good response. No response or are you contacting first and getting negatives.

I went out on one date with match a couple years ago. It was fine but the guy turned out to be divorced, a smoker, and had a kid. Three facts previously ommited and three deal breakers for me. I recently changed my picture and have gotten several winks and e-mails, though only one that seemed promising. I think I'm gonna rejoin and go on some dates if only to relearn how..There's one man I'm dying to contact because no matter how much I narrow the search he always comes up. Oh course he may not be looking for me.

Anyway, if you mean you're not getting anyone contacting you it may be the photo, but it may not. Maybe there's something about your profile. I finally decided mine was hostile and changed it. Not sure how much intrest has been due to that and how much is the cuter picture(which incidently had always been there but wasn't primary.

[travelingop]

Kelli,
Yes, I have done most of the responding. I did end up taking the full body photo down and sure enough, I got a nice response today. So, I'm not sure its the photo or what.
I don't believe that I have said anything wierd or neg. in my profile, so I'm not quite sure what's up.
I did go on a date this evening.. with someone I met awhile back online.

It went well, so we will see where things go.

I wish you luck in your suitor on Match! Keep me updated!
Elizabeth

[chapler27]

Hi Guys!

I have an ad up on Cupid. Met a guy who has lost 50 pounds on WW, and is a really nice guy, but I don't feel sparks, I feel friendship. I can always use another friend.

My mother actually paid for a month of eHarmony. I met one guy, really nice, and we had a lot of things in common. Went out on a date; had a really nice time. By the time I got home he had called me twice and left messages. I finally called him back because I figured if I didn't, he'd keep calling until he got me. He continued to call 3-4 times a day until it got to the point where I was screening my calls. I finally sent him an email asking him to please stop calling so much and that I would contact him later. We'll see. It got creepy that he felt like he needed to know what I was doing 24/7.

I think there must be something about Match.com. I had placed an ad on there back in January and met (who I thought) a nice guy. We planned to meet at Chili's. He shows up, orders the combo platter appetizer, and a glass of wine (one glass). As the appetizer comes, he gets up and leaves telling me I could "eat" the whole thing and to enjoy the wine. He just left! And guess who got stuck with the bill! I have never been so hurt in my whole life. And I wil NOT place another ad on Match.

So .... I guess now I wait to see if "Cupid"'s arrow will strike.

Laurie

[cathie965]

I always considered myself a "hottie" whether I was heavy or right now when I am over halfway to goal. I think I get more attention now.

[Melissa73]

This is a fun post! LOL.

I always considered myself a hottie...even as I got bigger...I was still attractive...just not AS hot as I was before...but the reference I give to "skinny B*****S" is polly pockets! I haven't been a polly pocket in a while...but although I am large...I am very tall and what people say statuesque. LOL.. My body is proportioned and i'm not a pear shape..so I can hide my weight well. I'd much rather be a polly pocket...but i still do get attention from the opposite sex.

I've met many men online....because I don't get out much anymore...besides my son's soccer games...LOL. And the compliments I get are on my smile...my eyes...my large breasts OF COURSE...and mylegs....very muscular. I get nervous because when i meet guys online...I know that I am bigger in person than what I look in my pictures...but I've never gotten any complaints...I've been told I carry my weight well.
Anyway, there was a point in my life that I wouldn't give MANY men the time of day....but as I have gotten older and have had some REALLY bad, abusive relationships...I definitely look at the whole man rather than just the looks...BUT... I HAVE to be attracted to something about the man. They don't have to have perfect body...but nice eyes, smile, goat tee...things that look sexy...are good for me...as long as they are a great guy!! I think I have definitely matured over the years. But my goal...is to be a polly pocket like I once was in the past..with my new, nicer...more positive personality..and meet a gorgeous man..that is the whole package. LOL.

What am I talking about...i have a nice boyfriend!! BUt are we going to be together forever...not to sure about that!!! Sooo....who knows what the future holds...besides a new HOTTER me!! :crazy:

[karroberi]

Here's my two cents about the online dating thing. I too, tried different sites including Yahoo, Match, American Singles AND E-Harmony. I think you have to have a kind of a tough, thick skinned approach because you do experience a lot of rejection. I had many, many contacts and also 1st dates. Oprah once did a show on it and somebody said that online dating was almost like her part-time job, and I thought that was so true.

Anyway, my story has a happy ending. I met someone on E-Harmony 2 years ago and we were married in March. My sister also met someone there and they are getting married next September. For what it's worth, I think that that site does take things a little more seriously and the people on it I think are a little more sincere. Granted, you CAN get some strange people no matter what site, but you never know what can happen. And might I add that I was 37 at the time, divorced, 2 kids pretty much raising on my own, and plenty of baggage to go with it AND I was very particular about who I dated BECAUSE of my children. And because I didn't deserve to settle for anything less than what I wanted. And neither should any of you. We're all worth the best. And also this was all done at not my lowest weight, but also not my highest. I did have a picture which I thought was a pretty good reflection of what I looked like, and most of the time I got compliments on my smile.

Okay, so maybe that was more than 2 cents. Maybe a dollar.:kiss:

[catcher34]

I'm new to this...just had the break-up last night. I've been checking out the boards all day while at work to keep myself distracted-it's either that or a total emotional meltdown! (We were together 7 years, engaged since April) Anyway, I was never a typical "hottie," I was always bigger just not as big as I've been these last few years. My very-recent ex, who I think looks like Anthony Edwards, had always let me know how attractive he found me. Not to be conceited-although a lot of us big gals hear this-I've always been told I had a pretty face. I'm a little pear shaped but because I'm athletic and relatively active I carry my weight fairly well & don't think I look as heavy as I am.



I have had more younger guys compliment me in the past 5 years or so, but I think because they were drunk, young and because they knew I was with someone. He's 4-1/2 years younger than me & close to his brother who's 5 years younger than him, so sometimes we'd hang out with his brother & his friends. And i think women knoiw what I'm talking about as far as you feel safer talking it up with someone you know is attached for thre reasons:
1. Someone is with you so you obviously have something goin for you to have somebody committed to oyu.
2. If you don't want to worry about being hit on, talk to someone who's attached (although that doesn't stop some people!)
3. If you want to talk to someone and don't want them to assume the attention is anything more than friendly talk, talk to someone who's attached (although i know people who think ANYONE of the opposite sex that talks to them wants them!)

So, I think I digressed. I guess my answer is no, I haven't got any flattering attention from men besides my ex-df in a loooong time. And I've checked out hot guys while we were together, & all i could think is "he's nice to look at but not worth ruining my relationship over.(If given the chance!)" I just hope that when I start dating again my self-esteem isn't so low that I go out with any loser that'll give me the time of day!

[andip67]

This is an interesting thread. I'm brand new to BCB, but I've been doing WW for almost 18 weeks, and I've also been doing eHarmony about the same amount of time. Both are a lot of work but well worth it - I hope.

On eHarmony I've been matched with a LOT of men (about 400), have emailed and spoken to a few on the phone, but have not met any yet. Now, I've got 3 separate dates this weekend!

WW is going well, and now I'm hoping that my dating life will go just as well :)

[CDL]

Okay, so.
Clearly Kaydee was making a joke. But, even if she were not this is the singles group and the thread is entitles Hot Again. That right there, I would hope can give a person the right to be funny and also honest. I'm sure a lot of fat girls wonder what it feels like to dump someone or reject someone or be pursued. If a woman has always been heavy and maybe never felt attractive then likely she's spent a lot of time alone or rejected or feeling like she has to constantly give in a reltaionship because that's all she has to offer. I had been considered hot from about 18-25 until I started to put on a lot of weight. Now I look better than before I gained the weight. It's fun! Every girl should experience the power of being the most beautiful woman in the room.

Okay, I'm drifting a little.

I also do not believe by a long shot that the most attractive thing about a man or woman is a good attitutude. It's a great quality in a waiter or sales clerk, but in a man I'm looking for a great smile, nice abs, strong intellect, and a sense of humor. A fine looking man with a quick wit and a good job can be as negative as he wants to be.

p.s. Girls, love the spirited discussion!!!

[CDL]

One more thing. I will admit that when I was younger I used to hook boys and also steal them justnto prove I could and I quickly tired of them and dumped. I will admit that bad karma did come back to me. But,it was still wicked fun.

[PinkGlttr]

Let's stay on topic...

I am not a big girl really, so I would say that the attn has basically been the same. My weight had been very gradually moving upward, and I just wanted to stop it early. I will say that when my tummy was flat, I had a lot more confidence, and THAT got me more attention. I don't think men noticed my tummy, I think I just felt more comfortable in my skin and clothes and didn't have to hide it (which I am good at).

[Dawnski]

Staying on topic!!

I have been heavy for a while, and I did not have much confidence for sometime..I have worked on that and now I do think I am attractive. I think I will be more attractive once the weight is gone, but I can be sexy from now until then.

[Jaye]

I am a big girl, no question about that, but that has never stopped me from dating or having a social life.

It is all about who you are. Your personality, your confidence and how you regard yourself. Self worth and self esteem don't come with the loss of the weight. Just like everything else it is something that you have to work at.

Walk into the room like you own it, have a twinkle in your eye and a smile on your face. Your personality is what makes it.

Everyone has preferences with whom they date, some men like "skinny minnies" and some men like a woman with some "meat on her bones". Believe me there are plenty of both around.

Will I get more attention when I get all the weight off? I don't think so, it is just going to change from which group of men. The ones who like thinner women or the ones who like some meat on the bones.

[Baby_Bear]

I'm going to try to stay on topic here, too!!

I have been dating my DBF for 3 years now. When we first started dating, I was doing WW and had lost quite a bit of weight. I kept it off and even ran a marathon --well, a "mini" marathon of ONLY 13.1 miles!! :race:

Then, after that, I just stopped--stopped WW, stopped running, just stopped.

He has made several comments that I should WANT to do these things again--for myself and for him. And he's right--it just took me awhile to figure that out!!

So, I am back on WW (for only a little over a week now) and although the pounds aren't falling off of me, I am FEELING better about myself and am FEELING hotter!!

So, am I a hotty again?!! Maybe not yet physically, but I sure do feel hotter!:)

[LindaB763]

I went to hear a band play at a casino this weekend with a group of friends. Saw this guy that I used to work with before the company packed up and left town. Funny thing is, he never spoke over two words to me while we both worked there. He talked and flirted with me for most of the night and danced with me twice.

Then he wanted me and my friend to go with him to the Blackjack table to be his good luck charms. He ended up winning $1,800. He gave me a quick good night kiss and we parted ways. The part that really bugged me was that I wasn't "good" enough to do all that with when I was 35 pounds heavier!

Does that happen to any of y'all?

[kymountainman]

Maybe it wasn't the weight-maybe he was seeing someone at the time or maybe didn't like getting involved with someone at work. Or maybe he just never saw u looking like a hottie away from work before and saw u in a new light. Or maybe u didn't feel like a hottie then and put off the wrong vibes and now that u r feeling like a hottie u r putting off the right vibes. There could be a lot of reasons, and it could have been the weight, but I wouldn't think so. He sounded like a nice guy and not shallow. If I was to guess I'd say he just saw u in a new light and liked what he saw and enjoyed your company. If u got his phone # u can call and ask him-




I went to hear a band play at a casino this weekend with a group of friends. Saw this guy that I used to work with before the company packed up and left town. Funny thing is, he never spoke over two words to me while we both worked there. He talked and flirted with me for most of the night and danced with me twice.

Then he wanted me and my friend to go with him to the Blackjack table to be his good luck charms. He ended up winning $1,800. He gave me a quick good night kiss and we parted ways. The part that really bugged me was that I wasn't "good" enough to do all that with when I was 35 pounds heavier!

Does that happen to any of y'all?

[LindaB763]

Maybe it wasn't the weight-maybe he was seeing someone at the time or maybe didn't like getting involved with someone at work. Or maybe he just never saw u looking like a hottie away from work before and saw u in a new light. Or maybe u didn't feel like a hottie then and put off the wrong vibes and now that u r feeling like a hottie u r putting off the right vibes. There could be a lot of reasons, and it could have been the weight, but I wouldn't think so. He sounded like a nice guy and not shallow. If I was to guess I'd say he just saw u in a new light and liked what he saw and enjoyed your company. If u got his phone # u can call and ask him-
All those thoughts went through my mind also. This dating business is so confusing!!!! :confused: Men make me nervous sometimes. But I do feel more confident now so that's a good thing.

He is a nice guy. And I think you are right about the not getting involved with someone from work thing.

I don't have his number and not sure if I would even date him. He has a 7 year old child and I don't want to get involved with someone who has small children. That's bad, I know. And if he can gamble away his money like he does, then no thanks to that either.

I don't mean to be so picky, but I'm not "settling" this time around either.

[kymountainman]

Doesn't sound picky at all-sounds like very good sense to me-u know what would work and won't work for u in a relationship-baggage wise, and see the potential red flags-like gambiling-that may be a problem. U'll have a much better chance of a successful relationship that way. U may have fewer relationships by being "picky" but the quaility of the ones u do have will be much better. Doesn't sound like u r confused-sounds like u got it going on!






All those thoughts went through my mind also. This dating business is so confusing!!!! :confused: Men make me nervous sometimes. But I do feel more confident now so that's a good thing.

He is a nice guy. And I think you are right about the not getting involved with someone from work thing.

I don't have his number and not sure if I would even date him. He has a 7 year old child and I don't want to get involved with someone who has small children. That's bad, I know. And if he can gamble away his money like he does, then no thanks to that either.

I don't mean to be so picky, but I'm not "settling" this time around either.

[Pandorra]

There is NOTHING wrong with being picky!!!! Absolutely nothing.

I've been divorced for 5 years, and I am finally in my first serious, mutually exclusive relationship since my divorce.

I went on tons of dates over the years, sometimes even more than 1 with the same person but there was always something about them that I didnt like.

Finally, I found this one, and he is most definately worth the wait.

Be picky and don't settle for anything less that exactly what you want!!!

[LindaB763]

Doesn't sound picky at all-sounds like very good sense to me-u know what would work and won't work for u in a relationship-baggage wise, and see the potential red flags-like gambiling-that may be a problem. U'll have a much better chance of a successful relationship that way. U may have fewer relationships by being "picky" but the quaility of the ones u do have will be much better. Doesn't sound like u r confused-sounds like u got it going on!
I'm glad someone thinks so! I feel like I'm flying out of control most of the time. Oh, I have a whole list of things! :) First thing that tops the list is he must be SINGLE/DIVORCED!! None of this "oh, I'm separated" bull. He must have a good job, no small children (teenagers are fine), his own place (no living with parents), decent vehicle, be attractive to me, be a gentleman, have a crazy sense of humor, and MUST love to dance and actually have rhythm!!! And a few other things but I must have those before I even go out with him. Looks like I'm going to be single a long time! :crazy:

[Pandorra]

I require all those things as well as ALL HIS TEETH.

Here, in Central Fl, one *must* add that to the list!

[kymountainman]

Well, u'd be ok in most of those things, but may be out of luck in the loving to dance and have rhythm department-all the other things a guy can do something about/change except that-either u like to dance or u don't and have rhythm or not-what's a guy to do then??? Or is it just "sorry about your luck"? Ha ha!


I'm glad someone thinks so! I feel like I'm flying out of control most of the time. Oh, I have a whole list of things! :) First thing that tops the list is he must be SINGLE/DIVORCED!! None of this "oh, I'm separated" bull. He must have a good job, no small children (teenagers are fine), his own place (no living with parents), decent vehicle, be attractive to me, be a gentleman, have a crazy sense of humor, and MUST love to dance and actually have rhythm!!! And a few other things but I must have those before I even go out with him. Looks like I'm going to be single a long time! :crazy:

[kymountainman]

So is a guy had gotten a couple teeth knocked out in an accident or fight or something-would he be out of luck too?:)



I require all those things as well as ALL HIS TEETH.

Here, in Central Fl, one *must* add that to the list!

[LindaB763]

Well, u'd be ok in most of those things, but may be out of luck in the loving to dance and have rhythm department-all the other things a guy can do something about/change except that-either u like to dance or u don't and have rhythm or not-what's a guy to do then??? Or is it just "sorry about your luck"? Ha ha!
I had to laugh at the "sorry about your luck"! NOOOoooo.... if he's agreeable, he can be taught how to dance. I just don't want the guy to be totally against the idea of dancing or at least trying! We could have lots of fun learning, right?

I have to agree with Pandorra about the teeth thing too. Mine is more geared towards having healthy teeth. I can't deal with the rotten/black/green teeth. At least have some good hygiene practices! Right, Pandorra? ;)

[Pandorra]

So is a guy had gotten a couple teeth knocked out in an accident or fight or something-would he be out of luck too?:)
YES!

That's what they make dentists for.

We *do* have them here in Central Fl. Mine loves me, I think I'm his only patient.

Teeth ARE NOT AN OPTION! LOL

[Pandorra]

I have to agree with Pandorra about the teeth thing too. Mine is more geared towards having healthy teeth. I can't deal with the rotten/black/green teeth. At least have some good hygiene practices! Right, Pandorra? ;)
RIGHT!!!!

If they aren't taking care of their teeth, one has to wonder what else they aren't taking care of!!!

Need I say more???????????????????? LOL

[LindaB763]

RIGHT!!!!

If they aren't taking care of their teeth, one has to wonder what else they aren't taking care of!!!

Need I say more???????????????????? LOL
Nope, 'nuff said and well done!!

[kymountainman]

Yes, I guess it would be fun learning at that-so long as no one could watch ha ha!

I agree 100% with the good personal hygiene-I have very good personal hygiene and would not be able to stand someone who didn't-imagine tiring to be intimate with someone who doesn't have good hygiene?-yuck!


I had to laugh at the "sorry about your luck"! NOOOoooo.... if he's agreeable, he can be taught how to dance. I just don't want the guy to be totally against the idea of dancing or at least trying! We could have lots of fun learning, right?

I have to agree with Pandorra about the teeth thing too. Mine is more geared towards having healthy teeth. I can't deal with the rotten/black/green teeth. At least have some good hygiene practices! Right, Pandorra? ;)

[LindaB763]

Yes, I guess it would be fun learning at that-so long as no one could watch ha ha!

I agree 100% with the good personal hygiene-I have very good personal hygiene and would not be able to stand someone who didn't-imagine tiring to be intimate with someone who doesn't have good hygiene?-yuck!
LOL You crack me up. Slow dancing is VERY fun! And can be sexy with the right person! ;) I guess you can tell I love to dance. That's my form of exercise.

Another thing I can't stand is dirty, greasy hair. Ugh! Or dirt/grease underneath the fingernails.

[Pandorra]

How about someone who smells?

I went out with this guy once..and I repeat ONCE!

He was ok looking upon first meeting (met him online) and had a really cute British accent.

We went to a movie and dinner. During the movie I kept noticing this odd odor, I thought it mightve been the ppl in front of me.

During dinner I continued to notice it.

Finally he walked me to my car and got close enough for a kiss..and holy moley did he stink. It wasn't like body odor, more like, an ammonia kinda smell. I never did figure it out (maybe really cheap laundry detergent?) and I never saw him again!

[LindaB763]

That kinda happened to me once. His breath smelled like garlic all the time.

[kymountainman]

U didn't say anything about slow dancing! Now that would be the one kind I'd love to learn! I was thinking about like rock and roll type dancing-just jerking and twitching on the dance floor-I wouldn't be too sure about that-but slow dancing I wouldn't mind a bit learning-it'd be my pleasure belive me ha ha!

Yes, unless there is some mental illness or personality problem, there is no excuse for being dirty and not taking care of yourself, although I have seen people who seem to be ok mental wise who it does not seem important too-they don't use deoderant or only take a shower every few days-I don't know how they can stand it.


LOL You crack me up. Slow dancing is VERY fun! And can be sexy with the right person! ;) I guess you can tell I love to dance. That's my form of exercise.

Another thing I can't stand is dirty, greasy hair. Ugh! Or dirt/grease underneath the fingernails.

[kymountainman]

Maybe it was his aftershave:)



It wasn't like body odor, more like, an ammonia kinda smell. I never did figure it out (maybe really cheap laundry detergent?) and I never saw him again!

[Pandorra]

That kinda happened to me once. His breath smelled like garlic all the time.
Ewww bad breath..sorta goes with icky teeth!

[LindaB763]

U didn't say anything about slow dancing! Now that would be the one kind I'd love to learn! I was thinking about like rock and roll type dancing-just jerking and twitching on the dance floor-I wouldn't be too sure about that-but slow dancing I wouldn't mind a bit learning-it'd be my pleasure believe me ha ha!
Naw, I don't do the rock and roll thing too often. I have though. I can't look any worse than the rest of the fools out there! ;)

I do like line dancing. But slow dancing is great! :D

[LindaB763]

Ewww bad breath..sorta goes with icky teeth!
He's got great teeth and is a very clean person. I think that it had to do with the strange combination of foods he would eat or maybe the medications he would take. Who knows? :confused:

[REG123]

At my highest weight I received very little attention and often the attention I did get were from people who thought that I would be "desparate" enough to put up with a lot of crap...and there were times that they were right sad to say...things have definately turned around in the attention department...and I do have to admit it is FUN!!!

I am sure a lot of it is the physical changes but some of it too has to do with "some" new found confidence. People who had shown no interest in the past are suddenly showing interest...but my thinking is... If I was not good enough for you then you are not good enough for me now!!!!
I personally found loosing the weight tough...maintaing the weight tougher...but rebuilding the self esteem the hardest part!!!

[Pandorra]

The self esteem part is hard!

I'm still struggling with it.

When I look in the mirror, I still see a fat girl.

How long did that take to change, for you?

(not the fat GIRL part)

[Sa2010]

Oh i like this post

i am totally convinced that getting a guy or girl or whatever is all about confidence...people have always told me this, but it took actual experience to let me know...

when i was at my HEAVIEST 215lbs i was working with a LOT of young guys and girls and NEVER got hit on more, even tho there were "hotter" girls around I was the one getting the guys, i was confident and good at what i did and i was all about having fun....then the job ended and i got on the scale had 7-8 mini heart attacks all at once when i saw the number and went on a SERIOUS starvation and exericse diet and got down to 180 and was so miserable that i didn't look good at all....the same thing happened when i went back to school and was determined to loose more weight and got down to 140 but was sooo starved and tired looking and soooo obsessed with my weight that no one wanted to talk to me....well i stopped dieting and got boyfriends, and hit on all the time esp when i traveled (but being a blonde american def helps things) and i also gained about 30lbs so i am back at 177 and trying to find a balance between being thin and healthy and actually feeling (emotionally) healthy...b/c i def think you need both to be a genuine hottie!

[Audrey's_Mommy]

I have been married for 2.5 years and with my husband for 5.5 years so I haven't really worried about my looks as much as I should have. I am WAY heavier now than I was at my previous highest weight before I was with my hubby. My highest weight before we started dating was only 150 which I thought was horrible! I was that weight through most of high school. I wasn't obese but I was chubby and had very low self esteem. I never got any attention from guys at all and never dated. At the end of my junior year of high school I joined WW and got down to 120 lbs. I was a size 3 and looked great! I got my long brown hair cut into a cut shorter style w/blonde high lights, got a tan, started wearing makeup and wore cute fitted clothes and when I started my senior year I was overwhelmed at the amount of attention I got. I think some of it was because I looked better but also I felt better about myself. It certainly is a shock to the system though to go from feeling invisible to feeling like a star lol. It was nice but took some getting used to! I met my hubby that year too!

[LindaB763]

I have been married for 2.5 years and with my husband for 5.5 years so I haven't really worried about my looks as much as I should have. I am WAY heavier now than I was at my previous highest weight before I was with my hubby. My highest weight before we started dating was only 150 which I thought was horrible! I was that weight through most of high school. I wasn't obese but I was chubby and had very low self esteem. I never got any attention from guys at all and never dated. At the end of my junior year of high school I joined WW and got down to 120 lbs. I was a size 3 and looked great! I got my long brown hair cut into a cut shorter style w/blonde high lights, got a tan, started wearing makeup and wore cute fitted clothes and when I started my senior year I was overwhelmed at the amount of attention I got. I think some of it was because I looked better but also I felt better about myself. It certainly is a shock to the system though to go from feeling invisible to feeling like a star lol. It was nice but took some getting used to! I met my hubby that year too!
Yep, extra attention does take some getting used to. When is your baby due?

[Audrey's_Mommy]

I am due in March! I can't wait to be able to start up WW again! :)

[Shyjade]

So, once upon a time I was a hottie. Then I got depressed and apathetic. I gained wait, overate, stopped working out, and settled for being an attractive overwieght girl .When I was a hottie I only like cute boys and never one for long. there were many boys to whom I would not give the time of day.

Hey, you stole my story, only I'm 35! Seriously, I was always the thin hottie and once I got fat I really "hid" under it...stopped caring about how I dressed, little or no make-up, glasses over contacts...the male attention STOPPED (and rightfully so!)

Even now that I'm still heavy I notice it's more about my attitude than my actual weight. When I take care/pride in how I look (eg. a night out with the girls or my BF) I get much more male attention. Unfortunately, until I shed the pounds I don't WANT that attention. What a vicious circle!

[jkewl99]

I will be a hottie again one day.

If not for myself, for my DD and DW. I do not want them to feel they
have a Fat husband or father. I was one of the few and the proud and

[newbkd28]

would you believe it was actually more? (I know my data says I haven't been on WW that long but I lost and maintained about 25 pounds a few years ago) I'm not quite sure exatly why, but it probably has something to do with how much I'm putting myself out there. I don't drink/go out to clubs as much as I used to. Maybe I'm making smarter choices and focusing on more important things... not there's a revelation! :bcb_grin

[rosem]

Hi Everyone,
This is my third time a WW and I really want to get to my healthy weight. I am 65 lbs overweight. My knees and feet are not doing so well with all this weight not to mention that my self esteem has crushed under the pressure of being the fat chick at work. I used to be thin and attractive. I worked out all the time and was outgoing. Since my divorce (four years now) I have been struggling with depression and my only comfort has been food. I am now working with a psycologist and working the WW program with a friend at work. I need all the support I can get and hope I found the right group. In 05 (which was my last log on to this site) I had gotten down to 162lbs and was not able to get to goal. I wanted it to fast too soon and when it did not happen I gave up. When I was at 165 lb. I tried Harmony.com and got a few interesting hits but my self esteem was not there yet. I know I put to much on appearance than what's on the inside. I like others for who they are. I wish I could like myself that way too. I want to take it slow and work on my self esteem at the sametime so I won't give up like before. It's time to move on and get involved with my life now. ;)
Rosem
SW: 194
GW: 132