Experienced Moms

[lilwitch78]

I have a little girl that will be a year old soon. I am starting school today (part-time). I want to have another baby. I recently got laid off and I am now collecting but after January I will have to find something part time. Anyone else "crazy" like me? I want to go to school so I do not have to worry about being laid off again. Any suggestions?

[32lbs&counting]

Well- as you know a baby ( that turns to a toddler and so on) can be and is a lot of work.
I would think that going to school and finding day care for one will be a lot of work not to mention if you had another one.
It really all depends. If you have a dh who has a great paying job while you attend school then you could find a great balance. After reading that you are concerned about being laid off I - I don't think that is the case. Sometime the urge to be a Mom again over powers all the "realistic" thinking that should be thought of.

Then again there are other factors as well such as your age and health and if you want the kids close together or not etc...

Really it is such a personal choice that all I can suggest is for you to weigh the odds.
What are you taking at school? When you are done will you be able to get work and if s is it the kind of job that is going to let you go in order to have a bay? Just a few things to think about.
speaking from experince though a baby never comes at the right time and you will always be able to take care of it. If there is a will there is a way.

I have one child who is 6 ( not planned) then we had #2 3 yrs later and now in 5 weeks are due with # 3.

Motherhood is something that you can never teach someone to do!

I wish you luck in your decision....

Do you have a dh or partner who is also wanting another child? That also will make a huge impact on what you decide to do.
Lisa

[lilwitch78]

My DH is very supportive of my decisions. I am rather young. I am 25 so my age would not be an issue for childbearing. My DH and I would love to have another next year. My first one will be a year on the 15th. I am going to school for medical assisting. My DH has a good job but the extra money will always help. I am on unemployment until January so I guess I will make a decision then. I will finish my program in 17-22 months because I am going part time nights. Daycare is not an issue because my DH is home at night. I only go 3 nights a week for 4 hours. I think I can do it. My daughter was not planned either. Thanks for your post.

[soontobethinmom]

If you can finacially swing it, I say go with your heart. DH and I tried for our first child while he was still a medical resident (he is an MD) and he had 4 months left of that and had not landed a job yet, meanwhile I was applying to grad school full time and if I got accepted it meant I would have to quit my job. DH got a job offer and I got accepted in a school that were 30 miles apart- great BUT they were both 1000 miles from where we were living. So I was 3 months pregnant, I quit my job, DH started a new job and I was commuting 40 miles to grad school until I was 8 months pregnant. Oh, and I was a newly wed, only married 7 month when I got pregnant. The changes were overwhelming but I would not change a thing.

Then I had my 2nd 2 1/2 years later. We moved away from that state to a new job in NY for DH and we had our 3rd baby.

I am expecting my fourth in 13 weeks, this baby was a total shock and convieved on birth control, my second youngest is only 14 months, and my others are 4 and 6.

I read a great article in one of my DH's medical journals, an editorial about the best time for Dr.s to have kids. Residency is too stressful, starting a new practice is too stressful, having a full practice is too stressful. In other words if they were to wait for the "perfect" time, kids would never happen.

Again, if you can support yourselves and the kids finacially, I say follow your heart. We did that with the first 3 and it worked out great for us. As for the 4th, well this new baby followed us LOL.

Good luck. Its always so exciting to think of a new baby.

And happy b-day to your child!!