wedding dress woes

[*rae*]

Okay, here is some background on me. I joined ww on April 9th 2002 at 287 pounds. I reached goal (180) almost a year ago. Right now I weigh about 195. I hate that I am above goal but just can't find the motivation or willpower to change that. I make tons of excuses and have tons of self-pity about it, which I know is stupid. You would think I would have motivation being as I'm getting married on May 15th of this year (umm that's 99 days from now!).

So my goal is to stop with the whining and excuses and lose the weight! Get back to goal and look and feel beautiful on my wedding day. My gown just came in today and I don't want to have to get alterations done now and again once I lose the 15 pounds!

What I am asking for from any of you is support for this, I think that's what I need. Thanks.
-Rae

[Miranda's Mom]

Rae - Look at how much you've lost - WTG graemlins/bcbsalute.gif If you stay OP, keep thinking about your wedding and how you don't want to have your dress altered, you'll be fine. Good luck - I'm routing for you! smile.gif

[service10]

Rae- I don't know about you but when I stumble off the path, I have to remember how good it feels to be OP and in control. You did it once and what drastic resultrs you had. With a little BCB graemlins/bcbkick.gif 15 should be no problem. Good luck and post often...

Cheers,
Christina

[CordyC]

Hiya, Rae (I'm really Rachel, named after my grandmother whose name was Rae.)

I'm glad to see you're getting yourself back on track. OTOH, you posted
I hate that I am above goal but just can't find the motivation or willpower to change that. I make tons of excuses and have tons of self-pity about it, which I know is stupid.Rae, you're right that it ain't the best attitude in the world to have. I make it a policy not to attend pity parties, and you have more enjoyable functions to look forward to, such as your wedding! So, can you reframe that in a more positive light? Like "I am working to rekindle my motivation and get myself back into high gear."

Or, blow off the whole concept of motivation and just do what you gotta do. Nobody wakes up in the morning and says "Wheeee! I get to put on deodorant!", but we do it anyway. Same for eating the proper number of points, journalling, drinking water and exercising. If you do it, you know what the results will be. So, snap to it, soldier! graemlins/bcbsalute.gif

[klerisa]

Originally posted by CordyC:
Nobody wakes up in the morning and says "Wheeee! I get to put on deodorant!", but we do it anyway. Hehe - sorry that was way too cute!

[jack123]

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[skinnysoon2006]

Hi Rae: Getting married is sometimes a very stressful time so maybe that is what is causing some of your weight gain. Before I got married I gained back about 15lbs and what really helped is taking walks with my now husband. Don't dispair because no matter how much you weigh I am sure you will look absolutely beautiful on your wedding day. Just try to think that if you take care of yourself now you will have a longer, more healthy life with your future husband:exercise:




Okay, here is some background on me. I joined ww on April 9th 2002 at 287 pounds. I reached goal (180) almost a year ago. Right now I weigh about 195. I hate that I am above goal but just can't find the motivation or willpower to change that. I make tons of excuses and have tons of self-pity about it, which I know is stupid. You would think I would have motivation being as I'm getting married on May 15th of this year (umm that's 99 days from now!).

So my goal is to stop with the whining and excuses and lose the weight! Get back to goal and look and feel beautiful on my wedding day. My gown just came in today and I don't want to have to get alterations done now and again once I lose the 15 pounds!

What I am asking for from any of you is support for this, I think that's what I need. Thanks.
-Rae

[lulu5724]

I agree with skinnysoon. I'll bet you are stressed out about the upcoming wedding. (Stress hormones cause weight gain, increased appetite.) That makes it all the more important to eat well and exercise, because your body can handle stress better that way. Worrying about your weight might make it worse, so maybe you should just focus on being healthy. You have plenty of time to lose the 15 pounds, so small changes might be enough for you to lose it. And if you don't lose all of it, that's ok. The important thing is you're healthy, happy, and with someone who loves you!

[pamrn23]

I feel your pain I got married September 2004 and had the same anxiety about the whole dress thing. :o Though I did lose about 10 pounds before the wedding (and therefore only needed minor alterations) I still was very upset that I wasn't at the weight I wanted to be at.

Don't dispair. You will be beautiful no matter what weight you're at on your big day. One thing that helped me was exercising (I didn't have enough will power to stay OP before the wedding). I bought a book called the Buff Brides Workout, there is also a website with the same name where you can find information about it. But I bought it in a bookstore. The workouts helped me destress in the weeks before the wedding. Even if you don't go that route trying to continue to exercise everyday will definitely help.:work_out:

I wish you all the luck in the world both with your weight loss journey and with your upcoming marriage. You will be a beautiful bride, remember he loves you how you are now.;)

Keep posting and we will all help you through this very stressful time.


Patty