No one has noticed : (

[Middie]

I know that it's only 6 lbs, but it means alot to me and no one has noticed the loss. I started at 151.5 (5'6), and now I'm 145. I know I'm still not where I want to be, but sometimes it's nice to get a little encouragement along the way.
Know what I mean? Any other FTL's feel this way?
Middie doing the PMS whine :(

[melsullivan]

Same here...went from 157.5 to 149.5 and no one has noticed it either. It's a bit discouraging - my mental process is going something like this:

Mel loses weight! -> No one notices :( -> Mel points it out to a friend -> Friend says "you don't need to lose weight!" -> Mel begins to wonder if she is insane -> Mel questions her desire to continue being hungry all the time when a) no one will notice anyhow and b) everyone seems to think she looks fine already. The only saving thought is this:

I notice.
I think I need to lose weight.
I feel and look better for it.
I am eating healthier for it.
It matters to me.

Just keep trying to remember that (and I will do the same).

Cheer up graemlins/wave.gif

[Sheila B]

I do know how you feel, as when I started to lose weight a couple friends were losing at a faster pace, so everyone seemed to notice their loss and not mine. At first I felt kind of down about it, however, now people are noticing!!
However, I really like Mel's statement about "I notice and I feel better about myself!!
WE CAN DO THIS!!!!! :D

SW 165 /CW 136 /GW 130 Ht. 5'3"

[Middie]

Thanks Melanie and Sheila!

[jlrose]

I'm not sure if it's that no one notices or if no one wants to say anything. There's nothing worse than saying to someone, "did you lose weight?" and having them curtly tell you, "No." graemlins/ugh.gif I didn't really start hearing comments from anyone until I lost about 50#! There is another principal at work here too. We all think other people notice our weight whether we're heavy or thin and the fact of the matter is--they don't. It's like Dr. Phil always says, "You wouldn't worry so much about what people thought of you if you knew how seldom they did." smile.gif

[ashlee]

I think sometimes people are afraid of hurting our feelings, offending us if they say anything. I'm down 30 lbs. and the only time anyone (people I used to work with) say anything is if I mention it. Frankly, I can't be bothered mentioning it because I'm just doing it for me and only me. graemlins/thumbup.gif

I'm having lunch with my Aunt and her daughter tomorrow. I haven't seen my cousin in years and she knows I've lost 30 lbs. - made the lunch date tonight. My Aunt has said to me before - instead of saying how great I've done - Oh well, what if you gain it all back. SOOOO, I've decided I'm doing this for me and don't intend to listen to any negative comments. graemlins/thumbup.gif

I rule, at least my own life!! graemlins/bcbsalute.gif

Ashlee graemlins/thumbup.gif

[Christym1969]

Hi I know how you feel too. I have lost 26# now and very few people have said anything. The only time they have is if we happen to be talking about weight and it comes up. So I guess you should do it for yourself and be proud of yourself that you made a committment to make yourself heathlier and happier!

[wwkatb]

middie i know how you feel , and im not trying to top you , but i went to a flea market (to work) where i had not been since loosing 75 pounds and not one person said anything, i was so depressed but it didnt last too long , like otheres have said im doing this for me , but lets face it it is nice to get compliments, i have lost 119 pounds and some people still..... dont say anything , so oh well.like others said most people just flat out dont care, ha, well i care and you have done a great job im sure you are starting to really notice your clothes getting loose its great isnt it? katb

[BuckeyeAnnie]

Hey Middie....that's what your BCBuddies are for! We know how much hard work it takes, and we have to tell each other we are doing great! So what if the rest of the world doesn't recognize our greatness...we are the few and the proud and WE KNOW IT!!! Now go strut your stuff :cool: !

[Veggie Supreme]

hey middie,
i know how you feel. I went to a friend's house after my daughter was born and I had lost 20 pounds since the time I last saw her and her first reaction was...hey...haven't you gained even more weight???? :mad: :mad: duh...is she blind??? and then she proceeded to tell me how great atkins is. My hubby said she was just jealous but it made me really graemlins/ugh.gif upset

[Maristella]

I think that the 10% goal was set for a reason. The same day I reached mine (Wednesday-hooooray!!!)I had a few of my co-workers asking if I had lost some weight. I also think that many times people refrain from mentioning anything because they are scared of making inappropriate remarks just in case the weightloss has been caused by a sickness! So just wear a happy face and grin everytime you notice that your clothes are loser! They might not notice the weight but they will notice how much happier you are :D

[slave2cats]

Mind if I add my .02?

Most people don't notice until you've lost about 10%....and even then many of them aren't quite sure what they're seeing. They know something's different.....but what :confused:

Right around my 10%, I started getting assessing looks, and questions like did you do something to your hair, or I really like that coat. The coat one cracked me up - I've had the same winter coat for 3 winters now ;)

Also some people are really reluctant to comment on size - they feel it's inappropriate.....and when you think about it, they're right. I sure didn't want anyone to comment when I was travelling UP the scale, so I should probably be thankful that they don't comment at all.

Though sometimes they'll surprise you: one of my co-workers has *never* said a thing about my appearance. We had a windy day a couple of weeks ago and we all had to leave the office for a meeting in another building. As we were going out the door he said "Somebody better hang onto Bethanne so she doesn't blow away!"

So ya never know.

[LuvnLoozN]

In February I had to go to the wedding of my husbands step brothers daughter. His mother was at the reception and I was picking at the fruit plate. She said something about something not hurting me if I ate it and I said well I have to weigh in Monday and don't want to show a gain since I have lost 65 lbs and she said I was going to ask if you had lost anything on Weight Watchers. I looked at my husband and said in front of her she can't see that I have lost a lot of weight. Some people won't say anything out of jealousy and hoping that you fail. I have lost 83 lbs. and she still won't acknowlege it and no I am NOT the daughter-in-law from HELL. graemlins/crazy.gif Keep your head up and lose the weight for yourself that is all that matters that is what I have done. smile.gif Cynthia

sw/wwgw/cw
234/155/152.3 started ww:3/14/02 goal:6/23/03

[parklady]

Also remember some people are not comfortable telling someone about their weight- even when you lose it. It is harder for people who see you everyday to notice a lost. Just be proud of the weight you lose no matter how much or little it is. Someone will notice sometime in the future.
After I lost 35 pound, I finally ask one of my good friends why she didn't say anything abut my weight lost. She told me she didn't want me to thik that she thought I was fat.

graemlins/bcbsalute.gif Hugs, Sharon

[limabean]

There could be lots of reasons:

A -- There isn't a significant visible change yet (to you, yes, and congrats!! -- to others, not quite yet!)

B -- They don't want to comment on your body in case you're uncomfortable talking about it -- I complimented an already thin friend when she began working out a lot and got really toned, and she got all flustered and couldn't even say thank you, so I never mention her looks anymore because I don't want to embarass her.

C -- They feel bad about their own looks and have a hard time complimenting someone else on doing something they wish they were doing -- another friend and I are the same height, and we used to be the exact same weight, too. I hadn't seen her in a few months, and she came down to visit a few weeks ago. I could tell she'd lost weight -- maybe 15 pounds or so, but I never mentioned it. I feel like a horrible witch -- I should have said something, but (this was before I started WW and seriously working out) I was feeling ... this is so embarassing to admit, but I was feeling almost betrayed, like she ditched me to be the only fat one. I know that's horrible, and after she left I kicked myself for not congratulating her, but all it did was remind me that I wasn't doing as well as she was, and I was too stubborn to get over that and be a good friend.

[lalibre]

Hi Ladies,

I on the other hand, don't want people to notice I've lost because I like to live under the illusion that no one ever noticed how fat I was. It is embarrassing to me, and when people say "You've lost a lot of weight!" I feel like they are also saying "You were really fat back then."

I guess I prefer comments about how great I look to how much weight I've lost.

I also project that others don't want to be noticed, so I would never comment directly on weight loss unless someone is already talking about it. Just shows to go ya that we are all different, and the fact that people aren't saying anything doesn't mean that they haven't noticed or don't think that you look great.

But, I say, get your needs met and mention how good you feel to weigh less, and I bet that would give people the green light to let the complements flow!

Just my two cents,

and keep up the hard work.
BCB Buddy Soya/La libre

[Elizabethlea]

When my friends found out I was on WW, they were like: "But you don't need to lose wight!" I felt pretty discouraged by that, actually, because I was kinda looking for some support! :ugh:

We can all do it! Keep it up!

Elizabeth

[The Doc]

Know what you mean. Be patient and optomistic!
Mick:exercise:

[spunky]

Middie,
Try not to feel bad. I lost amost 20 lbs. and most people never said anything. Some people did; but for the most part, not much was said. I never told my immediate family as in my mother, sister, etc. that I was on WW as I didn't want them picking apart everything I put in my mouth or encouraging me to put things in my mouth. Just keep up the good work and do it for yourself. I've put on about 5 lbs. recently and I can really feel the difference. So, 5 or 6 lbs, makes a huge difference. Good luck! Keep losing for yourself.:headover:

[Frisky]

I'm not sure how these old posts get resurrected. Middie hasn't posted since June of 2003.

I'm sure she's off sailing the high seas wearing a skimpy bikini by now and not giving BCB another thought.

:D

[sjc1228]

I'm not sure how these old posts get resurrected. Middie hasn't posted since June of 2003.

I'm sure she's off sailing the high seas wearing a skimpy bikini by now and not giving BCB another thought.

:D
Wow, I would never have noticed that if you hadn't pointed it out. Wierd!

[momof3rugratz]

Maybe it is because some are addicted to this board like me and I love to meet others and I do try to help and all my intentions are good. I post if I have something to say. :) I never look at where it was started.

[Honey123]

I think we should ask La Libre how she came across this as she is the first recent post on the thread! :)

-Ally

[faith67]

I know it seems frustrating at times that know one notices, but like my group told me just be thankful we only have a few pounds to lose so it's harder to notice on us. I knew I had to do something before I just kept going up and up with my weight.

faith