I need help BAD!

[iam2chunky]

As you can see by my signature I have continued to gain weight.I have gained back all I lost the first time on WW and then some.I have been trying to recommit and get started OP but am struggling really bad.It's a matter of great urgancy that I get going as I am hanging on physically by a thread.I am going to end up house bound very shortly.I haver two kids 11 and 2 so I can't let this happen.Even knowing this I can't seem to get the same excitement and umph that I had last time.Please help me try to figure it out.I know the last time I got going someone here was brutal with me but it gave me the kick I needed.Sure wish I had save that thread.It's been over three years now so it's gone.I just can't figure out what my problem is.Any takers?

Thanks for your input.

[CW]

We are good at the tough love thing.... We would be proud to help you as long you do the work we will support you. :bcbsalute

Welcome back
CW

[LivBean]

********{HUGS}}}}} :buddysmoo

I am by no means an expert, but listen, if you did it ONCE you can do it AGAIN!!! Obviously you are reaching out for help, so you are ready to get this ball moving!!! Make this committment to YOURSELF!!!!! Think about how you want to feel as your children move through their life milestones....weddings, grandchildren, etc. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!

Start today, with the next piece of food you put into your mouth. Start by committing to eat your five fruits and veggies each day......start with small goals, and pat yourself on the back for your small achievements.

GET RID OF THE VOICE IN YOUR HEAD THAT HAS BEEN SABOTAGING YOUR WEIGHT LOSS!!!! Only you have the power to do this, and we at BCB will be here to support you every step of the way. Think of your HEALTH!!!

Hey, you made the first step, you CAME BACK!!! Now get started and make it your goal to NOT become another statistic!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:buddysmoo

[kiki & jojos mommy]

Good for you for coming back and asking for help and for the butt kicking. You know what you need to do, you've already done it once before...now you need to do it!

First thing is first...get all the junk out of your house! Starting out you don't need ANY temptaions. If it's not in the house you can't eat it right??? I know its hard because the kids like snacks but beleive me they WILL get over it. Fill your house with healthy foods. Go onto the menu board and find some new things to try. I think that having options is a BIG help. All the times I did WW before this I ate the same stuff just less...that doesn't work. We need healthier meals! Make a game plan girl! You have to do this for yourself and for your kids. Think how much harder this will be if you end up house bound. Don't wait for that...get moving TODAY!

Make your meal plans for the day and post it here for accountability and support. People can offer suggestions and tips to help tweek your plans to better benefit you!

Look forward to seeing your posts today!

[busymommy]

Ronda,

You can do this...as a matter of fact you have to do this! I think your first step in the right direction is to admit to yourself that this is something you must do, prepare yourself mentally. I promise we will all be here for you to help you along the way.
I also think if you really look at WW for what it is...a life change and not a diet that will also help you. I know it does me...I guess I associate diets with restrictions and I can never stick to them. You have done it before so you know you can do it again.
Think about your kids and how much they need mommy...you have to want to lose for yourself but thinking about them should help you out too.
You have already taken a huge step by coming here...:buddysmoo I have faith in you that you can accomplish your goal.

[MarilynP]

Have you thought about trying the Core program? I am thinking that maybe it was not around the last time you were on WW. You may find Core is "different" enough that it does not feel like the same-old same-old. There is a separate Core thread, and a Core Recipe thread, that will give you some ideas about what it is about. All the best, whatever WW plan you choose.

[BarbA]

i'm glad that you're here. Welcome back home.

Peruse through the boards re: the achievement section http://www.healthdiscovery.net/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=56.. there are a LOT of inspirational stories there. They may be able to help motivate you.

Here are a couple threads to look at:
http://www.healthdiscovery.net/forums/showthread.php?t=109891

http://www.healthdiscovery.net/forums/showthread.php?t=109827

This was my post on that thread
Re: Breaking Point
I've told this several times (so pardon if you've heard it before).

I had always been a "healthy" morbidly obese person. One of my dear friends from work, had to retire early due to health complications. He was also a healthy morbidly obese person .. until one thing went wrong. It was like the entire set of dominos fell down on him. It started wtih diabetes .. when he hurt his foot it wouldn't heal and he ended up with cellulitis and osteomyletis. He ended up getting IV antibiotics to treat that and it ruined his kidneys. So he ended up on peritoneal dialysis (and later hemodialysis as well). After much medical complications and interventions, he ended up with part of his one leg amputated. The last 10 years of his life were spent in a wheel chair, giving himself peritoneal dialysis, in much discomfort .... experiencing depression. Last year, around June, he went in the hospital again ... to have part of his OTHER leg amputated. His heart ws in very bad shape and his wife made him a no code. He survived for a few months longer, but died November of last year. He was in his late 50s.

When I saw him in the hospital in June, it was like a lightning bolt hit me. That sense of invulnerability re: my health and my weight that i had like a shield, suddenly evaporated. I saw the train barreling straight towards me. My future. Pain. Poor quality of life. Being a burden on my family. Early death. I decided that i was going to learn from my dear friend's condition and would NOT repeat that mistake.

I do NOT want to be a burden on my family. I need to be able to provide FOR my family and my children. I want to see my children grow up, get married and have children of their own. I want to experience life to my fullest capacity.

That, is why i decided i had to do this. And why i know i will succeed this time.
For me ... the breaking point is when each of us decides that the "discomfort and pain" of staying the same overpowers the "discomfort and pain" of change. The above story is what did it for me.

Please post often and let us know how you're doing. BCBuddies help support, give information and hold each other accountable. Each of us is important

[goneastray]

I am not going to beat you up, I am a lifetime member gone astray myself. But let's start with what you know: The program works, you have been successful before, going off program does not work, you know that from experience, we all do, You do want to change your life, you have the motivation:Health, Children, You know how to do it, you have done it before.

I started again in July and I told myself I am going to commit for one week, just one week, and see what happens. Commit to one day if that is all you can muster, but you have to commit, you have to decide you can do this, you are going to do this, you are going to be successful.

[cricket211]

Barb's post says it all. We have to make a choice and that choice is today. If we dont do something about it now we may get to the point where we dont have a choice anymore. Our health is so much more important than what we put in our mouth. We all have to come to that realization on our own but I, like Barb, want to be around for my kids and my grandkids to come and I want to live a full healthy life and not be a burden on my family. I am fortunate to be healthy even though I am overweight but I know there will come a time that I will not be if I dont change my habits. I have been OP for a month and have lost 12.5 pounds. It is a long road but it is also exciting because I know I am doing this for me and I am worth it. You are worth it too!!!! You can do this!!!
You posted because you want help - come here often and read the posts. They are very inspiring and convicting!! Clean out those cabinets and refrigerator and come on board!!!!!

[Beckster]

Rhonda, take a good look at your life and what you want to change about it and what you want to stay the same. You said your health is deteriorating, and I guess it's happening pretty quickly, do you want that to stay the same, or even get worse or do you want that to change? You said you have 2 children. I'm sure they are the love of your life and you mean the world to them. Do you want that to stay the same, or do you want that to change? If you do not decide and commit to a healthy lifestyle, that will change whether you want it to or not. You will not be healthy enough to take care of your children the way you want to. You probably get the jist of what I'm trying to get across to you. Continue in this line of thinking and make the best decision for YOU and YOUR CHILDREN/FAMILY. You can do this. Look in the mirror at yourself and say "I WILL DO THIS." If you stumble, get up and keep fighting, soldier! You are here with a GREAT support group!:bcbsalute

[manx]

Put yourself aside for a moment because you have a choice. Ask yourself this. How would you feel if your children were taken away from you? Wouldn't that be the most horrible thing that could ever happen. That is what you are doing to them. The difference is they don't have a choice. You are cheating them not only out of a mom but also a best friend. You say you are close to homebound, you are taking yourself away from them by not being able to go out an play with them, be a part of their lives, be a part of school activities, to go out and watch them as they play sports, or go on vacations together, The only good to them is within those 4 walls. I am a single parent of an 18-year-old. It has been only her and I for the last 14 years. I was blessed with the opportunity to go watch her play in the park, to participate in outdoor sports, to watch her at basketball games when she was on the poms squad, to watch her dance at her school dance shows. We go out to dinner at least once a month, or do some sort of activity wherein she confides in me in things that are going on in her life.

Do you really want to cheat them, AND YOURSELF, out of those joys and blessings. It will take time but the end of the rainbow is so worth it. Simple exercises - take a walk outside with them. As I call it definitely "cheap and cheerful". Start slow but please, give all of you a chance. Start as small as you can go, even if it is 1 hour at a time and build yourself up, the key is START. RE-TAKE charge of your life. I have all the faith in you and I will definitely keep you in my prayers.

[CarrieD]

Ronda,

Keep coming to BCB. It's the support you need.

:)

[aWeighsToGo]

Welcome Rhonda,

You found this site again so the desire is there. Now you need to make it happen. Use some of the advice written in this thread and "just do-it." I really wasn't "motivated" until I saw some results and started feeling better. The more I lose the more healthy I feel and the more motivated I become.
I didn't join WW because I wanted to, I joined because I HAD to. I was afraid that my children would be w/o a mother. I used to sleep with the phone next to me when my husband was out of town, because I was afraid that something might happen to me and the kids would be all alone.
The Dr. was ready to put me on another Blood pressure Med. and I convinced her to let me try to lose weight instead. That was almost 4 months ago and and now I don't take ANY BP meds, i don't go to sleep with the phone anymore and I am planning fun things to do with my kids when I lose weight, like go to the amusement park. go horseback riding, skiing, etc. I am ready to live again....are you?

:welcome:

--Diane

[youngfrankenstein]

I know it might seem overwhelming right now. But I really loved Richard Simmons exercise tapes. There are people on there your size and all over the map. It is a very fun yet unstrenuous way to do a little moving.

5 mins of activity on your feet would be a lot. It really helps my motivation. It made me feel like I was worth it. It was also very fun. You don't need to worry about walking outside for 30 mins, just try any RS. They are what made me able to begin to consider exercise! Really!

[patience26]

This might not be much advice, but you need to do this for yourself and secondly, your children! They need you, and if that means being extremely strict on yourself, then so be it! I've got 2 kids myself, and I see my husband on diets and he loses weight then gains it back, it's hard to see.

I wish you the best of luck, and we're here for you!! Please don't give up!

[Cynduck]

You came here and that's a great start. You can do this. We can be here to support you but YOU are the one that has to take the next step and get started. You have proved that you can do this, you've done it before.

Get started tonight. Don't let your children be without you.

BarbA - that's an awesome inspirational story.

[GiveMeStrength]

I never look at the "whole" picture. I try and take it one pound at a time. If I look at the "whole" picture ~ it is very easy to become discouraged.
Take a good look at your children. Their smiling face is to precious for you to miss. Do it for them ~ do it for yourself. :D

[andip67]

Welcome Ronda - you've gotten a lot of good advice, now just make the decision to follow it. You have no choice, you need to do it for yourself and so you can be around for your children. And you're already familiar with BCB so you know we'll all be here to help and support you as we go through this journey together.

[zubie75082]

The great thing about WW now is that there are so many different options for people. You can choose the program that best suits you and be happy with that choice and the fact that you can always go back and forth from plan to plan if you need a little change of scenery! You have made such a wonderful decision to make your life healthier.. for you.. for your kids, for everyone! Thanks for letting us join the ride with you! Good luck on your journey! :buddysmoo

[Amgrease]

I don't know that there's much else for me to say except to reinforce the fact that we're all here for you. And don't worry so much about the weight loss, just worry about eating more healthily and changing your life style. The pounds will come off and it's always better to be heading in the right direction no matter what the pace or the obstacles.

[destiny's mom]

Just wanted to say Happy Birthday and I hope you have a terrific day!!