I'm gonna tell you the absolute truth here. My two most important people are ME and ME. My DH is a wonderful man but he's not at all interested in maintaining his health. I had to decide that one of us is going to survive and it has to be me. I can try to bring him along kicking and screaming but he's not moving.
I am the one who has to live my life as best I can. It's unfortunate that it took me this many years to figure that out but here it is.
Of course I love my husband and my children. I do this to stay healthy for the three of them. It's ME it has to be ME and Me.